What should the father of the bride wear? Distinguished, but never competing with the couple. He is photographed all day, so the suit has to read well from across the room. He wears it for eight hours or more, so it has to be comfortable. And he stands beside the people the day belongs to, so it has to defer without disappearing. The father's suit is supporting cast, dressed like a leading man. Here is how to get it right, for both fathers.
What should the father of the bride wear?
Start with the role, because the role sets every other decision. The father of the bride is distinguished but not the center of attention. The suit is in front of a camera all day, which rules out anything that photographs poorly from a distance. It is worn from the first photo to the last dance, which rules out anything that is sharp on a hanger but punishing after six hours. Dress like a leading man, then step back and let the couple lead.
Deferring to the couple's dress code
The couple sets the dress code, and the fathers follow it. If the groom is in a tuxedo, the fathers are in tuxedos, or in dignified dark suits where a tux would be too much. If the groom is in a suit, the fathers are in suits. In either case, go slightly more conservative than the groom in cut and color. The father's job is to look right standing next to the couple, not to outshine them.
Fabric and color
Charcoal grey, midnight navy, or a deep blue. Solid, or an extremely subtle pattern like a nailhead or a fine herringbone that reads as texture rather than statement from across a room. Avoid anything trendy and anything bright. The father of the bride is not the moment to debut a new aesthetic. The goal is a suit that looks correct in photographs your family will keep for fifty years, not one that looks current for a single season.
The cut question
Most fathers have not been measured in years, and that is the first thing to fix. The cut should be generous through the chest and slightly relaxed in the shoulder, modern but not aggressive. No extreme waist suppression. No skinny lapels. The suit should look intentional and current for the man wearing it, not borrowed from a son-in-law's wardrobe. A cut that respects an older build reads as confidence. A cut that fights it reads as a man in his kid's suit.
The unspoken rules between the two fathers
The two fathers carry slightly different roles, and the clothes can reflect it. The father of the bride is traditionally the one handing over, so he should look the part of the man giving away. The father of the groom is welcoming, which allows for a touch more ease in spirit. Both fathers should coordinate: similar tone, not identical suits, so they read as family in the photographs without looking like they planned a uniform. Close enough to belong together, distinct enough to be themselves.
The suit that outlasts the wedding
For a lot of fathers, this is the first new suit in ten years or more. That changes what the decision is worth. The right wedding suit does not retire after the reception. It becomes the board-meeting suit, the suit for the next daughter's graduation, the fiftieth-anniversary suit. A solid charcoal or navy in good cloth, cut to fit the man he is now, earns its keep for the next decade of important days. You are not buying a costume for one afternoon. You are buying the suit he reaches for every time the next decade asks him to look his best.
Common mistakes
The same few errors recur. Renting, which reads as a rental in photographs no matter how the day feels in the moment. Borrowing measurements that are years out of date, when the body has quietly changed. Underestimating how much weight shifts in a decade, so an old size becomes the wrong size. And choosing youthful over distinguished, which is the one mistake that ages worse than the suit. Distinguished never looks like it is trying. Youthful, on the wrong man, always does.
The Commonwealth Proper take
A father-of-the-bride appointment is a different conversation than a groom's, and we treat it that way. It is private and unhurried, with a glass of whiskey when he walks in and a real conversation before the tape measure comes out. We start with the day and the couple's dress code, then talk honestly about the body he has now rather than the one his last suit was cut for. And we talk about the years after the wedding, because the right suit is the one he will wear long after the photos are framed. Everything is made exclusively in the United States, and custom suits begin at $2,450.
Frequently Asked Questions
What should the father of the bride wear?
A distinguished dark suit or tuxedo that follows the couple's dress code, cut slightly more conservatively than the groom's. Charcoal grey, midnight navy, or deep blue, solid or in a very subtle pattern. The suit should read well in photographs and stay comfortable across a long day.
What color suit should the father of the bride or groom wear?
Charcoal grey, midnight navy, or a deep blue. Stay solid or choose an extremely subtle pattern like a nailhead or fine herringbone. Avoid bright or trendy choices, which date quickly and pull attention away from the couple.
Should the two fathers match?
They should coordinate, not match. Aim for a similar tone rather than identical suits, so the two fathers read as family in photographs without looking like they are in a uniform.
Should the father of the bride rent or buy his suit?
Buy. A rental reads as a rental in photographs, and the right wedding suit has a long after-life as a board-meeting and special-occasion suit. For most fathers this is the first new suit in years, which makes a well-cut custom suit the better value over time.
How should a father of the bride's suit fit?
Generous through the chest and slightly relaxed in the shoulder, modern but not aggressive, with no extreme suppression or skinny lapels. Get re-measured rather than relying on a size from years ago, since the body usually changes more than expected over a decade.
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